I started working for myself because wanted to have control over my life. I wanted to know that what I earned, how successful I was and how much of a live I lead was down to what I did and no one else. I didn't want to end up thinking about all the things I could have done, if only someone had not been in the way. This came when a friend of mine inspired me to never regret anything, when she had a baby through IVF at age 42 without a boyfriend or husband in sight.
I learnt that you can basically do whatever the hell you want in life. For me, there's only going to be this one time. After that, it all ends. And sitting around complaining how much it sucks, or how unfair it is the biggest waste of that life. The sky is not going to fall if you do something unpopular, or unusual.
I hate excuses. I hate people who use them to not do what they want to do, or let them think that everything is shit. I hate it even more when say, "easy for you to say, you have [insert the thing they don't have]".
Someone said this to me the other day, about my work. I'm busy, which is good. This person was done in the dumps about the money they earn, their situation. No matter what I said though, it wasn't good enough. "Easy for you to say, you're making money!"
And I thought, "Fuck you. I took the biggest risk quitting work and working for myself. I spent months trying to convince the people around me I could do it. I went against every grain of advice given. I could have ended flat on my face and out of work for months. I worked hard and it paid off. It wasn't handed to me. And I probably would have given you the same advice I'm giving you now if I had fallen over"
I'm happy for people to vent. Happy to listen too. But when you've been venting about the same problems for a long time, and you don't expect to troubleshoot a solution, don't tell me. If you can't change something, stop going on about it and focus on something else. If you can change it, then do it. Any consequences have got to be better than what you've got now.
Get some perspective people. Whichever way you get it, go.