You could never say that we were a clique. We changed and grew, fell out and got back together. There are a few faces below of how it changed, and a couple of stages. It took me a while to find a group I felt I fitted in with. There was a group of boys that were quite the clique, and the girls who were near were very focused on church and their already established friendships.
The first is a photo at the formal. The two boys to the right (one partially hidden by the other) are two that I haven't spoken to in a long time, the last belonging to a new group all together now - but that's probably a good shot of part of the now existent group we have now.
The second is at a school carnival, with a couple of ring-ins. The boy who is located second last from the right is now the together with the girl in red - I am with the boy in green and the four of us are probably the closest. We travel together, we talk more often and we spend time together.
The last photo is at our year 10 excursion - this is a group of girls that flanked my left side in the playground. I am in the middle in black, and the two girls to my left (on the end with the short brown hair, and the girl she is leaning on) were my best friends at the time. You can see that two of us are wearing silver necklaces - all three of us had identical silver love hearts, with "best" "friends" "forever" written on each of them. I think I had forever, but I still have the necklace. They were given to us by my now hubby and his best friend (who left in year 10, before that excursion). The two girls to the far right are a part of the current 'clique' I guess you could say - imagine them in the first photo and it's basically complete.
The three strawberry blondes are now married, two 'with child' and the other will be in the same boat pretty soon.
We all had pretty common ground - we were all from middle class families, our strengths were academic and the three of us in the formal picture are all creatives. The other two girls are both in the medical profession and spent a lot of time with the guys in chemistry, biology, maths, etc.
Now that I'm older, I see we all share similar characteristics while being quite different. We're all relatively mature - all focusing on careers - without it being our number one priority - and creating stable futures. None of us were the kind to go off the rails and spend our 20s in and out of clubs, nor have we settled down and started families with white picket fences. We're all pretty quirky - we all have a pretty dry sense of humor. We all wrestle with this idea that we're not quite normal - at different times, speaking to each person individually, I've learnt we're all thinking the same things, but it's still different to what other people are thinking.
Us girls changed a bit - of course it happens as the boyfriends come along. One of the girls who shared my necklace got a better offer from another group who you'd probably say were a bit more popular, a little cooler than us. I think that was her exit and some others came in to take her place. They swung between groups, and found their place later on in other groups.
I don't think we were that much of a clique. We didn't have a lot of internal drama, like we saw with other groups. It was mostly between individuals, and even then it was rare. We all got on quite well. Things changed a little when I started dating hubby, and there were a few that thought that wasn't right but it was smoothed over eventually (years later!!). But that was towards the end of the schooling year in year 12, and by then we were all looking at picking our futures, so no one knew what was supposed to be happening as we all became 'adults' and I think that any change wasn't welcome - we all wanted to stay in the moment.
I think I might try and get a photo of all of us this year, as we are and compare... that might be a nice thing to post.
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